Sometimes we forget the power of our own words. Maybe because we use so many of them in a day that we just forget how much depth and weight the things we say and how we say them can have in our life as well as someone we interact with.

Sometimes people know the right words to say at the right times. We take that to mean that they actually get us and understand what we are talking about. The truth is, maybe the people are just blowing smoke up our asses. Maybe the are just saying what we want to hear. Or even worse, maybe they are saying the things they really want to believe, but they can’t. They want those words to be true, but as they are writing them in that email or on that Christmas card, they know those words are a lie.

Then what happens to the receiver of those words?

That person sits there clinging to your words. Holding on to those words like little bits of oxygen before all the air escapes from the bag. Over and over again they read your words and the pain just continues to rip them apart. They are confused. Did you lie or did you mean those words at the time? What stopped those words from being true? What went wrong?

Sometimes it is nothing that you or they did. Time changes us and sometimes we see things we didn’t see before.

But what scares me the most is that people forget just how much weight the words they say can have on someone.

People just throw words around like “I love you” and “You are beautiful” so much that people like me, the person who shuts down and assumes everyone lies, just won’t believe those words when we hear them. It is a shame when someone comes along and really means those words because I don’t know who or what to believe.

Why do people use those words when they don’t mean them? What are they trying to gain (besides the obvious)?

How do you know when someone is telling the truth?

I don’t have all the answers. Hell, I don’t even have some of the answers. I just think we have to go with our gut and take a chance. Not everyone is out to hurt us. There has to be some people out there that are still willing to take a chance and be completely open and honest. I still have hope that some people will say what they mean and mean what they say.

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